They say people who have had experience in past relationships are better in handling their next one. I agree. But I believe you don’t have to have a past relationship for you to be the best in handling one.
This entry has been inspired by my relationship with a very special someone whom I have learned and gained wisdom with. And with people who’s lives I have observed and reflected with God’s Word.
This entry is also a continuation of the previous entry: I know I loved you before I met you
So I’ve heard…
A girl once told me that she prefers someone who’s experienced in handling a relationship – because he would be more mature as a leader and partner. In all honesty, that made me feel like I’m going to be terrible in one because I have never been in a romantic relationship before.
In essence, what she’s telling me is that she prefers someone who has indulged himself in a romantic relationship and who has learned from trial and error. She’s telling me she wants a man who’s had a give and take of himself with another woman – and has come out a more mature man after he has broke up with his girl. Hmmm…
While I would not disagree that a more mature man is the better choice, I would have to say that there’s another way in becoming the best person you can be.
Experience only knows so much
Experience is a great teacher, don’t you agree? But it’s not the best one. The best teacher would be the One who knows EVERYTHING about life. Experience only knows things through trial and error. It can only know so much. God knows things because HE CREATED THEM. Let me be painfully blunt with you. GOD IS THE BEST TEACHER. And He teaches through the Bible. It is the manual of life – it is GOD’S WORD. I can never stress that enough!
I believe that you can be the best person to handle a relationship through knowing God and reading His word. You can be the best leader in handling a relationship if you let God lead you in life. You can be the best lover when you have known the best lover in life!
I totally disagree with “I want an experienced person because he/she is more mature” thing. No, you don’t have to go through ‘experience’ to be the best person for your future partner.
I’ve seen it
I know for a fact that even if you have no experience at all, you can be the best partner for your special someone through knowing God – gaining wisdom and maturity in and through His Word. And I’ve seen it personally – I am a first-hand witness to love stories that claims the bride and groom to be each other’s firsts.
Do you believe that God can give you that maturity and wisdom through Him – even without the experience of going through a relationship and, of course, a breakup?
I know I do. I believe it with all my heart.
Experience is a good teacher but it’s not the best. God will always be the best teacher – it’s just a matter of knowing Him.