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Confessions of a Complaining Woman

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August 21, 2013 By Sean 12 Comments

Angelyn CoIn more than one occasion, I have verbally informed Sean how I felt that I was second priority to his work. By God’s grace, Sean is the man I would soon marry. The best man God ordained in my life to be my lifetime partner. And because of His faithfulness, He blessed Sean with a wonderful business as an SEO specialist. He started this business and continues to be a steward of it only because of God’s almighty hand and goodness.

Webmaster’s Note: This is a post by my Fiancee – Angelyn Co. The contents of which are close to our hearts as we learn to love each other along the way to our wedding day.

Sean and I live in opposite directions from Metro Manila. I am from the Northern part, Quezon City and he, from the South, Las Pinas. It was always a thrill to meet him, a moment I look forward to from the time I start my day up to the time I finish my work. Many times, we would meet more than twice a week because of his client meetings and sales calls in the North. But you see, because of our proximity, a lot of things can happen. To name a few: traffic, cancelled meetings, overtime, and fatigue. And many times, because of one or all of these combined, the scheduled meet-ups would suddenly be cancelled; leaving me very disappointed.

For our upcoming wedding and house planning, appointments are set left and right. I volunteered to do most of the coordination, planning and scheduling of meetings since this is something I had been doing in my line of work so I’m used to it and I’ve also come to enjoy it over time. These added responsibilities were shoulder to shoulder with my responsibilities at my 2 jobs. And to top it off, a lot of brainstorming and adjustments because of my boss’ decision to move into a new warehouse.

Sean would be very nice and appreciative of all my efforts. I especially thought that he would be extra appreciative by coming to our meetings on time or early since we had it set for at least 5 days up to a month before the set date and time with suppliers.  But no, he was busy.

Recently also, Sean moved into a new office. This was a decision that he made in spite of the losses to be incurred from the previous office rent. He has decided. It was done. This of course meant more expenses. And our wedding was only 7 months away with down payments and reservation fees draining our savings.

One day, while on the way to our appointment with a toilet fixture supplier, (set 3 weeks before) I voiced out my disappointment and/or frustration of his being late. I also told him what I thought about this; that he did not value the wedding/getting married as much as I did. I told him how I felt I was not a priority. He was silent. He looked hurt and refused to talk. This made me more upset.

Finally, God convicted me that I am Sean’s helpmate. I was supposed to be his partner not some complaining woman on the passenger seat. God reminded me about a woman of gentle and quiet spirit. “[Wives] Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” – 1 Peter 3:3-4

It was not about who was right or who was wrong. It was about what was pleasing to God and His design for a man-woman relationship. It was also helpful to have read the book Love and Respect where I learned about men’s desire to work and achieve. I easily understood this because Sean loved to talk about his work. And when he does, there was life and energy in his voice. I am continuously learning to pray for and support his decisions whether I agree, understand it or not. He is my leader and I am accountable to God to be submissive to Him.

Sean and Apple

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” – 1 Peter 3: 1-2.

I am continuously learning that Sean loves to work but it doesn’t mean he loves me less. In fact it means that he has found pleasure in fulfilling his role to be my future provider. After praying, he apologized to me at the car for again being late. He also explained to me that he needed to work hard in order to be able to provide for ALL the suppliers we booked. He found it more necessary to make money first before meeting suppliers since this was the only way they can be our suppliers anyway.

I am truly grateful and thankful to God for such a wonderful man in my life. How about you ladies, have you thanked God and your man today for his desire to work for you and the family?

Filed Under: Testimonies Tagged With: gentle and quiet spirit, how to respect husband, how to submit to husband, husbands desire to work, submissive wife, why women complain

Comments

  1. Cole says

    August 21, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    Wow, that was a truly TIMELY message for me. I’m now off to apologize to my man and make him feel that I appreciate him for trying to meet everything I expect of him, in spite of him not meeting one today. God bless you. 🙂

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    • Angelyn says

      August 22, 2013 at 9:47 am

      Am so blessed to hear that God used this post to speak to you. Thank you also for sharing this. 🙂 God bless you and your relationships.

      Reply
  2. maelorenzo♡ says

    August 22, 2013 at 4:49 am

    I used to say in my comments “I can so relate” but this time, not that much, yet I feel blessed that I was able to read this. 🙂 I was able to feel the essence of being submissive, realize the depth of God’s grace enabling one to practice it. Because issues or better say, testimonials like this, personally encourage me to practice it too more often, not as a wife yet, but wholly as of God’s. 😉 Praying for your upcoming wedding guys! 🙂 Showers of blessing be upon you both! ♥

    I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. ~ Philippians 3:14 #standfast 🙂

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    • Angelyn says

      August 22, 2013 at 9:46 am

      Thank you Mae for your blessings and the encouragement. May we always be aware of the presence of the Lord in order for us to submit wholeheartedly to the man He has ordained for us.

      Reply
  3. Keith Feliz says

    August 22, 2013 at 11:01 am

    This blog made me realize why my man before left me? hehe. because i got easily angered yet i say sorry immediately. I dont know. But thank you for this. Realizing that God has better plans for me as a woman. A submissive woman.

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    • Angelyn says

      August 24, 2013 at 5:20 pm

      Hello Keith Feliz,
      Were you the same Keith who commented on my ‘Letting Go’ article? Thank you for reading and may God bless your seeking heart. It pleases Him when wives (women) submit to the men He ordained for us. 🙂

      Reply
  4. enzo says

    August 22, 2013 at 8:16 pm

    That was really brave. I have never met a person who would publicly admit that there is something wrong with them. Congratulations, you’re the first one. And I believe that you were right in voicing out what needed to be said, it was really unfair that he was always late, but that’s not to say he did the wrong thing. Proving that he can provide for you, well props to him. Also, only now do I see how the Devil attacks marriage. Even if you two are a happy couple, the devil will find a way to create a gap in your relationship.

    Thanks for this, and I hope my G.B. will have the same wisdom as you. 🙂

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    • Angelyn says

      August 24, 2013 at 5:18 pm

      Thank you, Enzo. That was a really nice encouragement. Praise God for He was the one who told me to write about this testimony. It has not been a smooth path to humility but I continue to pray that God enable me as I focus on pleasing Him. 🙂
      May God allow you to cross paths in His perfect time and will. 🙂

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  5. Keith Feliz says

    August 24, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    Yes, i am the same person who commented on that article. Really really thank you for posting such blogs. I know God is using you guys to be a blessing to others. *i am actually crying while writing this comment*.

    Some days are just so hard to face. It has been months now but it seems like it was just yesterday. But I know, i am not the only person who is suffering. God makes me realize how great His love for me. and sooner or later, i will be able to accept reality.

    Again, thank you for sharing your experiences. Your blogs REALLY REALLY lessen the pain I am currently facing.

    Much thanks and love,
    Keith

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  6. Edan says

    August 24, 2013 at 10:23 pm

    Hey Angie (and Sean)!

    Reading this post is such a blessing. Happy to know that both of you are growing in love and in your walk with the Lord.Your honesty and humility is both disarming and inspiring, Angie. Even though I just met you both once, you guys are truly an inspiration. I’m really happy for you guys! God bless you!!

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    • Angelyn says

      August 26, 2013 at 4:16 pm

      Thank you so much Edan. Your comment is both humbling and pleasing. May the Lord also continue to be glorified in your life. 🙂

      Reply
  7. Weng says

    September 2, 2013 at 2:32 pm

    Hey Apps! I remember this story! Haha.. Blessed to see how God is building your character in this area! His ways are not our ways talaga no? What a way to prepare both of you for marriage! See you very soon!

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